1983 is the year I graduated from Defiance Senior High School, in Defiance, OH. My husband did too, and yes, we were highschool sweethearts(awww!) Our 30th Class Reunion was held last weekend and unfortunately we couldn’t attend. I have enjoyed looking at all the photos posted on facebook by classmates, and as I’ve been looking back on my memories of 1983, I started to wonder what were the Top 10 movies for that year? With the help of the internet I found the Top 10 box office hits of 1983: 1. Star Wars-Return of the Jedi 2. Terms of Endearment 3. Flashdance 4. Trading Places 5. War Games 6. Octopusssy 7. Sudden Impact 8. Staying Alive 9. Mr. Mom and 10. Risky Business.http://www.imdb.com/list/nYQNBmxb434/ Most of these movies I’ve seen( but not Staying Alive or Sudden Impact) and my definition of a Classic Movie is usually any movie made prior to 1965 so for today, with a fond look back at my graduation year of 1983, I decided to pick one of these films as My Classic Pick and Mr. Mom it is. Mr. Mom is a very funny, comedy-drama about an engineer with the Ford Motor Company, who lives in a lovely suburb of Detroit with his wife and 3 kids. One sunshiny day, the engineer and 2 of his co-workers are told they are being let go from their jobs. With this abrupt change in his life plans, the engineer decides he can be a stay at home dad while his wife goes out with her dusted off college degree and lands a job working for an advertising firm. It sounds like a plot that has been explored before, even in a folk tale http://www.amazon.com/Gone-Is-Story-Wanted-Housework/dp/0816642435. But there are many factors with the making of Mr. Mom that lifts it above a plot that’s been explored before: First, it was written by John Hughes, before he became well-known for his own movies that he created about teens and their families(16 Candles, Ferris Buehler’s Day Off, The Breakfast Club, to name a few), the talented cast of Michael Keaton, Teri Garr, Martin Mull, Jeffrey Tambor, Ann Jillian, Christopher Lloyd, all elevate this movie to Classic status. Directed by Stan Dragoti, produced by Aaron Spelling, and released by 20th Century Fox, the movie did excellently at the box office, earning $60,000,000.
Michael Keaton is Jack Butler, hard-working engineer, loving husband to Caroline(Teri Garr), and a great dad to his 3 kids, Alex, Kenny, and Megan(played by Fred Koehler, Taliesin Jaffe, and twins Courtney and Brittany White.) Jack is devastated and in shock when his boss, Jinx Latham(Jeffrey Tambor) calls him to his office to inform Jack that he is being let go from the Ford Motor Company. Jack’s two work pals, Larry(Christopher Lloyd) and Stan(Tom Leopold) also get the axe at the same meeting. Jack heads home and gives Caroline the news. She is sad for her husband but tells him that she can dust off her college degree and go out there and get a job to support the family. Jack agrees to this, saying he’ll be a stay at home husband and care for the house and kids until he finds another engineering job.
At first, Jack is enthused about caring for the house and the kids. Funny scenes ensue as he discovers he doesn’t do things like Mommy does, drives the wrong way into the elementary school parking lot when dropping Alex off for school-“You’re doing it wrong!” has become a catchphrase around our house, trying to mimic the grating voice of the PTA mom in charge of the parking lot entrance and exit at the school! Another hilarious scene is poor Jack, trying to grocery shop with the other 2 children in tow, knocking over displays, causing a long line at the deli of frustrated housewives to grow behind him as he is so indecisive at making his purchase choices, and his embarrassment at having to buy feminine products for his wife and putting them on the conveyor belt for the cashier to enter their price into her register only to discover that they need a price check, which the cashier loudly proclaims on her microphone for all the store to hear.
After these funny scenes of Jack settling into life as a househusband, he becomes depressed. He stops shaving and grows a beard and he discovers soap operas, specifically The Young and The Restless. The scenes where he is caught up in the soap opera’s plot and yells at Victor to watch out for Nikki always make me laugh because in 1983, I also watched that same soap opera, and it had a crazy story line going on about Victor and Nikki! Jack also begins to befriend the other ladies in the neighborhood, all stay at home moms, and he teaches them to play coupon poker. One of the moms, Joan(Ann Jillian) is attracted to Jack and she drops a lot of hints that she’d like them to have an affair! Meanwhile, Caroline is wowing her new co-workers at the advertsing agency where she now works. Only she came up with an ad campaign for a tuna company that the president of the company liked. Caroline’s new boss Ron Richardson(Martin Mull) is attracted to Caroline and we know that he is going to try and steal her away from her husband. There is a picnic with Olympic style games held at Richardson’s home for all of his employees and their families and despite being younger and in better athletic shape than Richardson, Jack has to curtail his abilities at the Olympic games and let Carolyn’s boss win the events. Jack can also see that Richardson is interested in his wife and this leads to some funny day dreams on Jack’s part, set to a Young and the Restless plot line of Joan trying to seduce Jack, Caroline walking in on them, Joan confronting Caroline about Jack, Caroline melodramitically arguing with Jack and pulling a gun on him, and Richardson popping in on the scene. There is also another hilarious moment when Jack learns that Richardson is coming to his house to pick up Caroline and chauffer her to work, so Jack quickly dons a “macho” outfit, grabs a chainsaw, and spouts all kind of manly activities he’ll be doing while Caroline is at work and for Richardson to overhear! The tuna company wants the new ad filmed in Los Angeles and Richardson informs Caroline that she must accompany him there to help supervise the commerical’s look. Caroline reluctantly goes with him, feeling down as it is Halloween and she won’t get to help take the kids to the houses for trick or treating. Jack feels down, too, as he is a bit worried about his wife going to LA with Richardson around.
I won’t give away the rest of the movie, but there is a huge misunderstanding coming due to major miscommunication, Jack has another meeting with his old boss, repair men and repair ladies all show up at the same time as major appliances are breaking down, and despite the foibles and miscommunications going on among the main characters in the movie, it all works out wonderfully in the end. Mr. Mom is availble at Amazon.com http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=Mr.+Mom, either to purchase or view on their instant rental method, it is on Netflix, and hilarious clips of the movie are up on Youtube. Not a black and white classic film, not a film made before 1965, but a classic comedy with heart and a very talented cast, go and see one of 1983’s Top Ten movies, Mr. Mom.
6 Aug
Straddling that Education Fence
Posted by jennifromrollamo in Social Commentary. Tagged: Ferguson-Florissant School District, Hazelwood School District, Rainbow Resource, Rolla School District. 3 comments
In 1996 when our oldest was going to be a kindergartner, the Ferguson-Florissant School District decided to begin all-day kindergarten. That was a disappointment to me. My first teaching job was teaching kindergartners and I knew from first hand experience that a half-day of school was better physically and mentally for a 5 year old child. I saw this new move to have all-day schooling for 5 year olds in a cynical light-my tax dollars would be paying for someone else’s daycare. Meaning, that parents putting their babies in daycare could now expect to only have to pay for before and after school care for their new 5 year olds, instead of paying for all- day day care, which would lighten up their family budgets a bit. With that announcement made, and a request for an option to allow parents to only send their children to 1/2 day if they still wanted that option shot down, we decided to take the plunge and homeschool our son.
Homeschoolers at work.
Telling the grandparents was the next step and for the most part, they were accepting of our decision. We told them we would homeschool one year at a time, evaluating as we went. With a degree in Education, the teaching part didn’t daunt me. Perusing the awesome Rainbow Resource Catalog did as it was(and still is) chock full of so many curriculums for teaching the three R’s, art, music, pe, and educational games. Figuring out a new family schedule was a bit of a challenge, but we soon fell into a rhythm of working on lessons after breakfast and morning chores were done, a break for lunch and time to play, and then just a couple more lessons in the afternoon, when the preschooler, the toddler, and the baby would be napping. Through those early homeschooling years, I reviewed lessons I had learned as a student myself, learned new things along with my children, and it was always rewarding to see them learn to read. It was also fun to get the question from each of my children when they turned 4 years old, “When do I get to do school?” We also found fellow homeschooling families to go on field trips with and found an amazing homeschooling support group in the North St. Louis County area to join. When out running errands during a weekday with all of my kids in tow, we would always be asked by the clerks, “Oh, is this a day-off from school?” I would reply that we homeschool and just about everytime, the clerks would tell me that their niece, aunt, sister, friend, homeschools their children. That information told me that homeschooling had been growing since my journey began in 1996 and that it wasn’t just a fad.
Jumping ahead several years, our oldest informed us that he wanted to attend school. With high school just around the corner, my husband and I decided to let him attend the local public school. There were several excellent private schools in our area, but the tuitions were outside of our family’s budget. Over time we have finessed our oldest’s request into letting our children enter public schooling for the 8th grade, then continuing on for high school. I know this decision has shocked some of our homeschooling friends, and just surprised others. We wanted our kids to be able to deal with other instructors’ schedules, work in group settings, learn to continue to do their best in a school setting, and not have all of that thrust on them for the first time when they entered a college classroom. So far, our 4 who have been in public junior high and high school have done quite well, The oldest son graduated from Hazelwood Central in 2010, the next, a daughter, graduated from Rolla High School in 2012. Son # 2 will graduate this coming May from Rolla High and son # 3 will be a 10th grader there. Daughters 2 and 3(twins) will be 8th graders this year at Rolla Junior High, their first venture into public school. That leaves the baby, son # 4, my sole homeschooler, and he’ll be in 5th grade. ( In case any of you are skeptical, our oldest is a Marine and will be attending college via the GI Bill in 2014-15, our daughter is in college, an education major, and son #2 is doing the college searches now.)
Public school class in action.
That is where I straddle the fence. I have personally seen the benefits of homeschooling. Having parents and siblings and then other relatives and friends be the main peer group for children is a great benefit. Cuddling with one’s child on the comfortable sofa for reading and history lessons is a precious time. Yes, there are tears at times, if the kids got into an “I can’t do this!” or an “I don’t understand this!” mode, so taking a break for a bit, or shelving that lesson to the next day, is a great option that homeschooling has over corporate lesson learning in a classroom of 22 students.
But at the same time, I am saddened when I read some articles supporting homeschooling that bash the hard working public school teacher and what they’re trying to accomplish. Yes, in certain parts of the country, some public schools have adopted ridiculous rules and have decided to take on some radical ideas and have tried to teach them to their students. Now and then one knows of a teacher who isn’t doing a very good job- my next teaching post after kindergarten and a move to South Carolina was at a middle school, teaching 7th graders math and one of my co-workers, every Friday, just showed his classes a movie for the day! Never an educational movie, none that ever had anything to do with the subject he was to teach. Why that was allowed, I’ll never know! I would say that his teaching method for Friday was the exception rather than the rule. The majority of teachers I have worked with and know are very hard working individuals who love kids and want to help them gain the knowledge that has been decreed that they need to know in a specific grade or subject.
I think homeschooling works mainly because of the one-on-one teaching/learning experience. Homeschooling parents can take their time getting through a new concept if their child doesn’t “get it” the first time. A homeschooling mom can toss out a curriculum that isn’t working and try another one. A public school teacher, having to stay on course due to testing schedules, doesn’t have that luxury of stopping and re-teaching a concept days on end until every student understands it. A public school teacher doesn’t have the authority to toss a curriculum that the students and she find unworkable. I have often wished it could be this way, if public school teachers could have smaller classes to work with, say 10 students, and that way they would have an easier time of making sure all the students understand that new lesson before moving on, but smaller class sizes would mean more classrooms, more teachers, and most school districts don’t have the resources or buildings to accomodate that idea. Another idea I read about that is currently practiced in Japan, Germany, Switzerland, and Sweden is that from Kindergarten through 6th grade the students have the same teacher. That teacher receives the new group of students when they are 5 and is their teacher for all of those following years. The teacher really gets to know each student’s strenghs and weaknesses, formulates plans to help each reach the needed academic goals each school year and I think that idea is one American public education should look into.
Straddling that Education Fence, I want to tell my homeschooling friends to keep up the good work that they are doing for and with their children, but please stop criticizing the public school teachers and what they are trying to do. It is not an easy job, it is tiring but can be rewarding. Not every public school is a den of evil with teachers out to get the kids and perform mind-control on them to turn them away from their parents’ values system. I want to equally tell my school teaching friends that homeschooled children do get out of the house! Socialization does happen, a lot, just not always with another group of 22 peers, but it happens on field trips, on the sports fields(lots of homeschoolers take part in youth league sports), in the scout troops, at dance class, music class, and out running errands;homeschooled kids learn to socialize with all folks from all age groups in a multiple amount of different settings.

I would sum this post up with the fact that the most successful students, whether homeschooled or attending a school, are the students with loving, attentive parents. Children need to know that Mom and Dad value a good education, that they expect their children to work to attain one to the best of their abilities. Parents who slack at the educating of their children unfortunately, ususally also slack at parenting skills period, and we have all seen the negative impact that this has on a society.
With the 2013-14 school year about to begin, I pray that all who I know with school-aged children, whether homeschooling parents or school sending parents, that this will be a wonderful, fun, yet hard-working school year. May the kids be safe on all field trips, the travels around town in the family van or in the busses, and that all of us parents would stay alert and ready to aid our children in their educational endeavors, but to also let them do the work, and to grow in wisdom, discernment, and maturity.