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Affluenza and Ways to Innoculate your Kids!

I had a wonderful Christmas break.  Time with my family, gift-giving, good food to eat, and getting to sleep in a bit each day.  Now that 2016 has arrived, it’s time for me to jump back onto my blogging site so here is my first post for this new year.

I enjoy watching the old tv show Perry Mason.  My family rolls their eyes, but I do catch them at times following along with the plot of the show.  The other day, even though the episode was from 1961, it could have been torn from today’s headlines: a rich, spoiled young man who behaved rudely to all, an insensitive jerk, was murdered.  Take out the murder in the Perry Mason plot, and it reminded me of the sad saga of the “Affluenza”  afflicted young man from Texas, Ethan Couch.

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Actors Bryan Grant and Torin Thatcher, as the spoiled rich kid and his enabling tycoon father, Season 5"s The Case of the Unwanted Bride

Actors Bryan Grant and Torin Thatcher, as the spoiled rich kid and his enabling tycoon father, Season 5″s The Case of the Unwanted Bride

I don’t know Ethan Couch.  I don’t know his parents.  What I do know about he and they is what I’ve heard and read in national news reports.  It was on June 15, 2013, in Texas,when Ethan Couch was driving while intoxicated.  He lost control of his vehicle.  Unfortunately,  a group of people happened to be standing on the side of the road with a disabled SUV.   Four people were killed when Couch plowed into them and crashed into the SUV.  Two people in Couch’s vehicle were badly injured.   In total, 9 people were injured in this crash.  The nation took notice when in December of 2013, the judge ruled that Couch would receive 10 years probation and ordered him to a place of long-term therapy.  Couch’s defense attorneys argued that the young man had “Affluenza”, meaning that since Couch had lived a life of luxury, that he wasn’t raised with any discipline and  really didn’t know right from wrong, that therefore he didn’t understand that his actions can have consequences.  Many people in the U.S., when they heard about this defense, shook their heads in disbelief.   Couch  made the news recently, along with  his mother Tonya, because they were both in Mexico, Ethan living it up with booze, drugs, dancing girls, and he missed a probation meeting.  Missing that meeting meant trouble for Couch; violating his parole agreement.  His mom, Tonya, is also in trouble for aiding her son in going to Mexico  and hindering the police in the apprehension of a felon, her son.   Here is a link from CNN that goes over all of this mess of a situation.

There are so many lessons to be learned here but I’ll try to keep it to just a few.  Parents, one has to raise ones kids with discipline!!!  Now, I’m not talking about punishments for clumsy accidents, like spilling a glass of milk or knocking over a potted plant or leaving the lights on in the kitchen after everyone else has gone to bed, but I am talking about discipline being needed when your child out and out sasses back at you, disrespects your parental authority, tells you NO!  That can’t be overlooked or ignored.  If your kids can’t show you respect, then that means they won’t show respect to any other adults they meet in their life.

Ethan Couch is from a wealthy family.  This fact made me think about another weatlhy  American family, the Rockefellers.  It was a couple years ago on American Experience, a show on PBS that I watch from time to time, and  the episode was  about the Rockefeller family.  What impressed me was that John D. Rockefeller Jr. had 6 kids with his wife Abby, and while they lived in a fabulous home in New York state, he insisted that his children be assigned daily chores to do and that they receive an allowance based on if they got their chores done or not.  This was a super wealthy family!  John Jr.’s father, John D. Rockefeller Sr., founder of Standard Oil, had a net worth of $336 billion dollars!!  Yet his son, was careful to raise his own 6 children to know how to work, and how to earn money, and how to give it away.  John Sr. was also known to have given $500 million dollars away through his lifetime to various philanthropic groups, colleges, etc.  I have a sad suspicion that the Couch’s probably didn’t assign their son many chores to do.  It is a good idea to train kids in helping with household chores and when they get to be teens, having them find a part-time job.  Our teens have worked part-time jobs and it has benefited them in money management, in making purchases for items that they have wanted, and in getting along with the public-be it customers, bosses, or co-workers.

John D. Rockefeller Sr. with his son, John D. Jr., daughter-in-law, and 6 grandchildren.

John D. Rockefeller Sr. with his son, John D. Jr., daughter-in-law, and 6 grandchildren.

Discipline, respect for one’s elders, knowing the value of a dollar, knowing the value of doing good work, knowing the value of giving of one’s funds cheerfully-these are great ways to innoculate your kids from developing “Affluenza”.

 

Oh, the Irony!

Williams College, a private, liberal arts college in Williamstown, Massachusetts devised a series in 2014 known as “The Uncomfortable Learning Speaker Series”.  Three students in 2013 noticed that much of the discussions and/or debates at Williams College leaned heavily in favor of left-thinking philosophies, and conservative thought was not being uttered very much.  The students decided that they wanted speakers to come to Williams who would deliver speeches from diverse points of view, and open up the debates and dialogues on campus.  The series was met with enthusiasm and
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Fast forward to last week, when the ironic and  illogical happened.  A speaker for the upcoming Uncomfortable Learning Series was uninvited!  Was the speaker a supporter of terrorism?  A supporter of anarchy?  A person who doesn’t think the President is a U.S. citizen??  Not at all!  The scheduled speaker, Suzanne Venker, was going to discuss the failings of Feminism “because it denies the existence of biology and teaches that equality means sameness, which is a losing proposition when it comes to planning a life-particularly if that life includes marriage and family.”1

The folks at Williams College who plan the Uncomfortable Learning Series began to hear complaints about having Venker speak.  Why didn’t the planners stand their ground?  Isn’t the point of this series to encourage students to at least hear another person’s viewpoint?  From my readings about this speaker series, students aren’t forced to attend, so if a speaker is going to discuss something that really, really, really makes a student uncomfortable, that student can stay in their dorm room and nap! Or surf the internet!  Or do their homework!!

This refusal to allow one speaker to speak at Uncomfortable Learning made me also think about an article one of my cousins shared on Facebook.  My cousin found an article interviewing two gentlemen, Greg Lukianoff and Jonathon Haidt.  Their article which they wrote for The Atlantic,  The Coddling of the American Mind,  is about a disturbing trend, growing on college campuses, of students wanting words and discussions stopped if those words and discussions make them feel uncomfortable.  They cited in their article one anonymous professor, who wrote a piece for Vox, stating that he’s a liberal professor and he has to be careful of how he teaches as his liberal students terrify him!  Lukianoff and Haidt go on in their article how this coddling of students’ minds can also lead to mental health problems.

I know that when I was a college student, back in the dark ages of 1983-87, political correctness was beginning to raise it’s misguided head.  I think that this new trend is a direct offspring of the campus pc police, meaning that the loudest students and/or faculty that don’t like an idea or philosophy try to get it shut down, making it forbidden to discuss those ideas or philosophies on campus.

I really hope those at Williams College, running that speaker series, will realize that they caved in to the pc police and re-invite Suzanne Venker to give her speech.  Don’t become wimps, Williams College!  Enlighten your students’ outlooks on life!  Don’t let one vocal group of opposition shut down your scheduled speakers!

Sources used for this blog:  1Williams College’s ‘Uncomfortable Learning’ speaker series dropped me. Why? by Suzanne Venker, Oct. 20th, 2015, FoxNews.com

‘Uncomfortable Learning’-How 3 Students Changed Their Elite College For The Better,  Jennifer Kabbany,  Sept. 5, 2014, The College Fix

Where Did Colleges Go Wrong? Hara Estroff Marano, Oct. 14, 2015, Psychology Today

The Coddling of the American Mind, Greg Lukianoff and Jonathon Haidt, Sept. 2015 issue, The Atlantic

Beware of Aunts that Sue and Noisy Toddlers

I was cleaning up in the kitchen yesterday morning after the family had departed for work and school.  The radio was on and ABC News was giving the top of the hour national news report when this story caught my ear: A woman who lives in Manhattan had filed a lawsuit in Connecticut, against her nephew for injuries she sustained to her wrist when she fell from a hug he gave her at his 8th birthday party!!

Jennifer Connell went to her nephew, Sean Tarala’s birthday party.  When she arrived, the nephew was riding his brand new bicycle.  When he saw his aunt, he got off the bike and ran to her and gave her a hug, which knocked them both to the ground, breaking the aunt’s wrist.  She didn’t complain at the time as she hadn’t wanted to upset the boy.  However, she claims life has been difficult for her since the broken wrist occurred, and she decided to sue the boy in civil court for $127,000!!

Life has been hard for her? Did she not seek medical attention for the wrist?  Did she receive poor care for the wrist? Did it not heal properly?  One of her complaints was that it’s been hard to hold an hors d’oeuvres plate!  Upon further reading about this lawsuit, the nephew, now 12, had his father accompany him to the jury trial as his mom died last year!!!  I think the death of a parent is a lot harder to live with than the difficulties one might have in holding a plate of food!!

Fortunately, the jury only deliberated for 20 minutes and came back with a verdict rejecting the civil lawsuit.  If one really thinks about this, an aunt suing her nephew, the consequences of this action have probably irreparably damaged this lady’s relationship with her nephew, and possibly with other relatives, too.  What a sad situation.  Thank goodness for a jury with common sense!   Noisy toddler

My last paragraph is about concert etiquette.  My husband and I attended last week’s Rolla Choral Arts Society and Rolla High School, Rolla Jr. High, and Rolla Middle Schools’ Fall Concert.  The choirs all did very well, and it would have been a very enjoyable evening if the family sitting near us had had some common sense and left their toddler at home.  The family had a baby with them, who slept throughout most of the concert.  However, their toddler kept up a constant chatter, sometimes emitting a high-pitched screech.  His parents constant “Shhhhhh’s” meant nothing to their child.  The concerned look from the senior citizen ladies in front of our seats didn’t phase the parents of the noisy toddler.  My husband glanced at them and gave me a look of “don’t these dolts know their loud child is ruining this experience for the audience??”  Finally, after the concert was 3/4ths of the way over, this family left.  My advice to parents of very young children, wanted or not, is do not take toddlers to a musical concert of any kind! They don’t have the maturity to sit quietly, the concert is probably going to overlap on the youngster’s  bedtime or nap time(if it’s a daytime presentation) and sleep for a toddler is more important than seeing some friend or relative perform.  If you can’t hire a babysitter for the evening, then just stay home, please!

 

* credit to the CT Post, Daniel Tepfer,”Jury Rules Against Aunt Who Sued Boy Over Hug”, Tues., Oct. 13th, 2015.

*credit to Baby Blues comic strip, by Rick Kirkman and Jerry Scott

 

Thank you Ward 2 Councilman Crowell!

I was reading the Rolla Daily News a couple weeks ago, reading the article about the budget workshop  that the City Manager, Mayor, and City Council attended.  This workshop was not open to the public, but a reporter was allowed to relay what he saw and heard.

As I read the article, I wanted to give a shout-out, a high-five, a thank you to one of my councilmen, Ward 2’s Matthew Crowell.   During this budget workshop, he questioned why the city of Rolla paid $95,000 to the RREC(Rolla Regional Economic Commission)?  What is the purpose of this entity, and what does it do for the city, and what economic boons has it actually brought to the city of Rolla?  I would add, when was the RREC created and has it performed as to it’s original purpose?  If it hasn’t, why keep giving it that money each year?

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As a taxpayer I applauded this series of questions.  $95,000 is a lot of money for the city to shell out each year, especially when the administration recently gave a report that The Centre will always be needing an influx of city dollars to stay open.  That $95,000, if it’s shown that the RREC isn’t actually doing a lot to bring in economic growth to Rolla, St. James, and the rest of Phelps County, could go to The Centre.

A few other councilmen also asked some pertinent questions about the city’s budget, but as I don’t live in their wards, I decided to just thank my city councilman for his good questions.   The reporter went on to state that the City Administrator said that a meeting would be arranged for the RREC’s Director to give a presentation to the City Council to explain what it is that RREC does and why paying it the $95,000 is a good idea.  I have been waiting to read about this meeting in the Rolla Daily News, but haven’t seen an article about it, yet.

When my 15 year old twin daughters were 5, they overheard their grandmother liken the playing of the lottery to throwing one’s money down a rat’s hole.  A few weeks after hearing that phrase, one of them wisely said that wasting money on a cheap toy was like throwing money down a rat’s hole!  I was tickled that the child had remembered her grandmother’s phrase and the wisdom in it.  I now hope that the city of Rolla will wisely re-look at the entity that is the RREC  after this presentation is made, and decide if giving it $95,000 a year is wise.    As a taxpayer, I expect the city to use the  money  I’ve paid to them wisely.

Why was the Mountain Named McKinley in the First Place??

I was listening to the radio, really half-listening as I was doing morning chores upstairs, and I heard the radio announcer say something about President Obama’s trip to Alaska, and that Mt. McKinley was going to be called Mt. Denali.  In my half-listening state, I thought that the mountain was being renamed just for the time that President Obama was going to be visiting.

Mt. McKinley, now Mt. Denali

Mt. McKinley, now Mt. Denali

 

Fast-forward to later in the day, and I was listening more closely to ABC Radio News, and the reporter informed me that the mountain’s name change was a permanent change.  The reporter went on to say that the mountain was named Mt. McKinley in 1917.  I was waiting for the reporter to explain why the mountain was named after President McKinley, but no explanation came forth.  That bothered me more than the mountain name change.  So, in case you have no clue as to why the mountain in Alaska, the tallest peak in the U.S. was named after President McKinley, the 25th President, I’ll give you that information.

McKinley

President William McKinley, a native Ohioan, was the last U.S. President to have served in the Civil War.  He had begun as a private and by the war’s end, had risen in rank to Brevet Major.  He earned a law degree, began to practice law in Canton and married Ida Saxton.  Politics came calling when he was elected to Congress in 1876, and he also served two terms as Ohio’s Governor, in 1891 and 1893.  His first term of the Presidency began in 1897.  He defeated his democratic rival, William Jennings Bryant, by promising a return to a sound dollar economy.

During McKinley’s first term, there was fast economic growth, he ordered and oversaw the U.S.’s win in the Spanish-American War, and the U.S. gained Guam, Puerto Rico, and the Philippines from Spain.  Hawaii also became an official U.S. Territory.

In 1900, McKinley ran for President for a second term and easily won.  6 months into this second term, on September 6th,1901,  he was at the Pan American Exposition in Buffalo, NY, shaking hands and greeting fellow Expo attendees.   McKinley loved to greet the public and talk with them and had a hard time agreeing to any protective agents around him.    A mentally disturbed anarchist, Leon Czolgosz, was in this line and when he reached his turn to shake President McKinley’s hand, he shot the President twice, one bullet grazing President McKinley and one bullet entering his abdomen.

An artist's rendering of the assasination of President McKinley.

An artist’s rendering of the assasination of President McKinley.

McKinley  seemed to rally from his wounds, but on the 13th gangrene set in and on the 14th he died, which ushered in his Vice President, Theodore Roosevelt, to the highest office in the land.(I always find this bit of history amusing.  Roosevelt wasn’t liked by the establishment Republicans who ran the party, so to keep Roosevelt quiet, they gave him the Vice Presidency spot, not knowing that within 6 months the Republican they didn’t like would be the President!)

How did this tall mountain, the tallest in North America gain it’s name after the late President?  One William Dickey, a NH- born, Seattle-living outdoorsman, had led a group of gold prospectors to the Susitna River in June of 1896.  When the gold prospectors and Dickey got back from their trip, the first “real” U.S. news they read about in a newspaper was that William McKinley had been nominated by the Republican party as it’s nominee for the Presidency.  So, Dickey and his chums began to call the mountain Mt. McKinley.  This was also a dig at the many silver prospectors they ran into who were supporters of the Democrat nominee, William Jennings Bryant, who was a supporter of a silver standard, wanting the economic unit of account to be based on a fixed weight of silver and not gold.   With the death of President McKinley from an assassin’s bullet, sentiments grew to honor his memory and in 1917 Congress passed an order to name the mountain after McKinley.  President Woodrow Wilson signed the order into law.

Changing the name of the mountain doesn’t really bother me that much.  There’s been an idea to change it back  to Denali since 1975. (The mountain has also been called Bolshaya Gora, which means Big Mountain, in Russian, back when Alaska was under Russia’s control.)  What bothered me about this news story was the lack of information that was not given as to why the mountain came to be called Mt. McKinley in the first place.  Facts, news folks, I want all of the facts!

Lastly, political cartoonist Michael Ramirez made a funny drawing about this mountain naming brouhaha that I thought I’d share.

 

 

“Hey, Mom! Who You Gonna Vote For??”

My oldest 6 kids know that their father and I pay attention to the news. US news, World news, and they’ve grown up with talk radio and Sunday news shows, and dvred episodes of the Fox  irreverant news show Red Eye,  airing in the backgrounds of their sundry growing up lives.  With all of that in our house, it’s become a popular question of the oldest 6(#7, the baby, and sorry, he’ll always be “the baby” even when he’s in his 70s!-he’s a bit oblivious to this news stuff)to ask me who I’m going to vote for  in the next U.S. Presidential election.

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I decided that for today’s blog, I’m not going to say who I’d vote for as I really don’t know yet.  Well, I take that back.  Since I do view things through a conservative lens, it’s a pretty safe bet that I won’t be voting Democrat, or Green, or Libertarian for example.  However, I’ll share a few of my opinions on the Democrats, too, since it’s my blog and I can opine if I want to!

Mr. Trump-who my kids love to tease me about.  Why is he polling so well amongst some of the voters?  As George Will so eloquently said a week ago on Fox News Sunday, Trump is representing a voters’  “primal scream”.   Conservative voters are so tired of being told, “Elect us Republicans and we’ll bring change to Washington”, or “We’ll put a stop to the President’s agenda” and then the elected Republicans get to D.C. and they DO NOTHING! (There, that’s my primal scream.)  It’s as if the Republicans have no spines, they just continue the status quo of staying in power and ignoring the folks who elected them to office.  If our family has to run on a budget, why can’t the US government?  Where are the grown-ups who can stand up and say, enough!?  Trump is loud, proud, and not afraid to spout off his thoughts.   To many who are frustrated with the US federal government, his persona is refreshing when compared to the status quo politicians also running for the Republican nomination.

Carly Fiorina-She handily won the jv debate(my husband’s nickname for it) that aired on Fox News prior to the main debate that aired a couple weeks ago.  (By the way, for the Fox News naysayers, that debate drew in 24 million viewers! Here’s CNN’s report on it.)  She was knowledgeable on the issues, she could answer the questions clearly, with facts to back herself up, no hmmms, or uhhhhs at all in  her answers.  She, like Trump, isn’t from the world of politics and for that I find her refreshing.  I think if she were the nominee she’d debate rings around Hillary Clinton.  The main negative that the Democrats have thrown at Fiorina is the lay-offs of employees when she headed up Hewlett-Packard, to which Fiorina has countered that that was during the tech bust, and when businesses fall on hard times, tough decisions need to be made.  Yes, people lost their jobs, and that hurt, but H-P was able to survive and recover and other tech boom businesses didn’t survive.  With all of the government regulations on businesses that now exist in our country, I like a candidate with a business-running background, one who has a good grasp on economics, to turn around and fix the U.S.’s economical woes.

Dr. Ben Carson-Smart man, has to be to have been a neurosurgeon!  Seems like a very patient person, grounded, quiet.  I don’t know if he has what it takes to deal with foreign powers, especially ones who are causing all of the havoc in the world.   If Dr. Carson really wants to get into the political arena, then why not run for the U.S. Senate seat in Maryland that is now open due to the long-time Democrat’s retirement?  Dr. Carson has a lot of fans in that state and in Baltimore proper.  Be a U.S. Senator for 6 years, and then make a presidential run if that is still a desired goal.

U. S. Senator Marco Rubio: He’s young, eloquent, is an aim at garnering Hispanic votes, and I think could do well against Hillary Clinton. He needs to be careful on his next photo op though, if throwing any sports gear, i.e. footballs, make sure no youth are in the area.  It’s not his fault that the little kid got hit in the face from a Rubio thrown football, but that’s all the media payed attention to last week, is his throwing that football.

U. S. Senator Ted Cruz: Smart, Princeton grad,  Harvard grad, Harvard Law School grad, one of Harvard  law Professor Alan Dershowitz’s smartest students, according to the good professor.  However, my mother-in-law and I were discussing his persona when he speaks, and to us, he just comes off as too smooth.  Juan Williams, pundit often on Fox News’s various roundtables nailed it one time, in my opinion, when he likened Cruz to that used car salesman in his delivery.  I’m not ruling him out, but he does strike me that way, too smooth, a bit condescending in making his points, even if I agree with his points.

The rest of the Republicans: They aren’t standing out to me.  Some of them I like, some of them I don’t.  Our oldest who goes to college in Ohio has had a few opinions to share on Gov. John  Kasich, but I don’t think he’ll be the nominee.  I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s angling for a Vice Presidential spot or a cabinet post, though.

Now for my look at the Democrats.  Months ago, Hillary Clinton was the odds on favorite to be the party’s nominee for President.  It’s her turn, so to speak, since she didn’t receive “her turn” in 2008 due to a charismatic senator from IL, one Barak Obama, who jumped in and outright grabbed her turn from her.  Months ago, I even told my kids that she’s going to be the nominee but now I have some doubts.  The Clinton’s have a lot of money and pull in the Democrat party, but with all of this email scandal stuff that has happened, the U.S. Justice Department getting involved, the FBI, and just yesterday, President Obama’s Press Secretary Josh Earnest came out saying that the President said the  smartest political decision he has made was selecting Joe Biden to be his running mate-Wow!  What a slam at Hillary!  I think with that announcement, it was a way for the President to tell his fellow Democrats that it’s okay to not go with Hillary for the nomination.  How will the DNC deal with that?  Hillary has had some health issues during the past year and a half that have been quietly mentioned in the press, and not explored further.  If things get much worse for her, it won’t surprise me if the “bad health and I need care” card is pulled and her campaign is suspended.

Vice President Joe Biden-bits of  news have been leaked to test the waters , to see the reactions, if the Vice President chooses to run.  He had a weekend meeting with U.S. Senator Elizabeth Warren, a favorite among progressives in the Democrat Party.  Did he offer her a spot to be his Vice President if he runs?  Did he offer her a shot to run in 4 years if he decides to only serve 1 term?  Supposedly Biden’s dying son asked him to run for President.  Can Hillary run successfully against a dying son’s wish?  Who would be the best person to carry on President Obama’s agendas-Hillary Clinton or Joe Biden?  The DNC has a lot of soul-searching to do.

U. S. Senator Bernie Sanders-the 70 something Independent, former hippie of the 60s.  I do say that with fondness, as I have one child of the 6 who likes Bernie.  “Feel the Bern” has become an oft quoted phrase around our house, and I have also taken to saying to our Bernie fan such pithy phrases as, “I bet Bernie Sanders took out his family’s garbage cans without complaining!”  and “I bet Bernie Sanders always eats his vegetables!”  My husband has repeatedly told our Bernie fan that there is no way the DNC will let Sanders be the nominee, because it’s Hillary’s turn.  This morning at breakfast, our resident Bernie supporter didn’t know about Vice President Biden’s meeting with Senator Warren and that made our Bernie fan do a double-take.  I did tell our Sanders supporter that if a Democrat does win the election, I’d much rather it be Sanders than Hillary, but I too, doubt if Sanders can wrest the nomination from Hillary’s hands.

Former MD Govenor Martin O’Malley-I think he’s angling for the Vice Presidential spot at this point.

There you have it, in a nutsell, my various thoughts and answers that I have told my 6 kids who have asked who I would vote for in the next Presidential election.  One thing I wish were true, is that the election cycle-the campaigning and the election, were a much shorter time window.  I was listening to Mark Steyn yesterday on the radio, and he said Canada was preparing for their election and it was only an 11 week cycle!  Why can’t America have such short election cycles?  That would be wonderful, I think.

 

Paulding, Rolla, and Chattanooga

Paulding, Ohio is the county seat of Paulding County.It’s the county that is directly south of the county I grew up in, Defiance County, Ohio; both counties  nestled in Northwest Ohio.   Paulding has been on my mind since I found out this weekend that US NavyPetty Officer Second Class Randall Smith, who died from his wounds on Saturday,  the fifth victim in the terrorist attack at a Recruiting Center in Chattanooga, Tennessee,was from Paulding.  I told my husband and we found out that Smith had graduated from Paulding High School, that he had wrestled and played baseball there, and that he enrolled at Defiance College on a baseball scholarship. After a year in college, Smith decided to join the US Navy and serve his country, just like one of his grandfather’s had done. US flags around NW Ohio have been flying at half-mast. I also saw on a friend’s facebook page a shared announcement, that Amercian Legion members in NW Ohio were being called upon to ride their motorcycles to help escort the body of Smith to Paulding.

With a son who is finished with his 4 years of service in the US Marines, I was heartsick when I got home from work last Thursday and found out that 4 Marines had been killed by a young man of the Muslim faith.  I didn’t realize then that our military forbids recruiters to be armed while on their job.  It doesn’t make any sense that military personnel, whether they are on their base or at a recruitment office, cannot have a gun on their person for protection!  I saw in the news since this horrible terrorist act, that citizens with conceal carry permits have been volunteering to stand guard at recruitment offices across the country and that some states governors’ have announced that their National Guardsmen can carry weapons for protection.  A friend who served proudly in the US Navy, whom I was discussing this policy about “no guns” with,  I mentioned that common sense would seem to dictate letting military personnel be armed and he said sadly common sense seems to be lacking.     1292820_600061856803413_7918403076136407459_o

Rolla, Missouri, where I now live, is home to Missouri University of Science and Technology, a premier school for educating engineers, scientists,  mathemeticians: all careers that rely heavily on math and science.  We have  a lot of students who come here from other parts of the world, and many are from Asia.  I would say that several times a week I see Middle Eastern students, the females wearing their head coverings, or Middle Eastern male students out shopping with their wives and kids in tow.   I haven’t had any bad encounters with those students, but I have found myself wondering, just wondering, if any of those male students, the one’s without a wife and kids, are susceptible to joining in with some terrorist organization?  Our oldest daughter, during her senior year at Rolla High School, took a class that let her work at a preschool held at the high school and several of her students were Middle Eastern children, as their parents didn’t want to enroll their kids in the other preschools in our community that are Christian based and held at churches.  One day our daughter came home with a sort of funny tale, their craft for the day involved gluing marshmallows down on paper and one little girl began screaming that the marshmallows weren’t “halal”.  None of the teachers or student helpers could figure out why marshmallows would freak out a 4 year old, so we asked a friend who had done mission work with Muslims in Detroit and she explained that some marshmallows are made with animal gelatin, from hooves or bones, and that that’s not “halal” or proper food for a Muslim to eat.  (Here’s an interesting link I found about what is and isn’t halal food.)  In that same preschool class, my daughter said one boy was always scowling and one day he said he and his family hated America, it’s a bad place, and as soon as his dad had his degree, they’d be moving back to where they were originally from!  I wonder to myself, if America is such a “bad place”, then why come here at all??  Child #4 in our family of 7 kids, is a Senior at Rolla High and last year as a junior he wrote a very thoughtful piece for his school’s newspaper. He decided to interview Muslim students at the high school to ask them what it’s like to live in America and to practice their religious faith.  My son’s article was well-done and helped me to see that not all Muslims here think America is “bad”.

My twin daughters, since 8th grade when they left homeschooling and enrolled at Rolla Junior High, have several friends who are Muslims.  The girls are bright, practice their beliefs including the headdress and food rules, and my daughters get along with them really well.  They know from our girls that we are active at our church, Greentree Christian, so there is an air of mutual respect for each other’s beliefs.  One of their friends, they told me, is a bit sad though as her father announced that in another year their family  will be moving back to their native country so Dad can work there with his new degree from MS&T.  The country they’ll move back to is having a lot of internal troubles and the girl has confided to my daughters that she doesn’t want to leave America.  I told my girls that all we can do is pray for her friend, that God will keep her and  her family safe, and perhaps she can come back to America when she is an adult.

With all of these thoughts swirling around in my head this week due to the tragedy in Chattanooga, I give it all to God: my anxiety, my wrong-headed prejudicial thoughts, my concerns with our government and how they are dealing with these crises, those grieving families who lost their loved ones suddenly in Chattanooga, the family of the shooter and the pain they are dealing with.  Life is full of many events that we can only ask “Why?” about and we realize that the answers may  never come to us in this life.  From looking at the book of Job on the Sunday sermons at our church, I have been reminded that Job was dealt an awful hand: his wealth, his children, his health were all taken from him.  With horrible advice from his suffering wife, friends with bad assumptions, he too cried out “Why?”  Ultimately, Job was reminded how great is our God, how far above He is from what mere mortal man can comprehend, and that despite the disasters that befell Job, he didn’t give up in his belief in God.  Job 27:1-6, Job states how he won’t give up his belief, no matter what else may happen to him in this life.  I, too, pray that I can hang on and deepen my faith no matter what this life may present to me.

 

 

 

 

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